Attraction & Projection
A brief observation - kind of building off of the ideas I was discussing last week regarding spontaneity.
So I've been examining my own habits of attraction (sexual but also just general social) and realising something which is probably a pretty documented phenomenon.
Essentially the people I find myself drawn towards are always people who have traits that I want to have in myself. So people with interesting tastes, the ability to actually let loose, even people who are able to be disciplined. On the other hand, when people have similar traits to me ("quirky" people) I often find myself driven away.
I'm not explaining this extremely well.
Essentially I just want to relay a phrase I thought up:
"You hate the people who could be you, you love the people you want to be".
At some point I'll write a more substantial thing with some actual thought put into it.
So I've been examining my own habits of attraction (sexual but also just general social) and realising something which is probably a pretty documented phenomenon.
Essentially the people I find myself drawn towards are always people who have traits that I want to have in myself. So people with interesting tastes, the ability to actually let loose, even people who are able to be disciplined. On the other hand, when people have similar traits to me ("quirky" people) I often find myself driven away.
I'm not explaining this extremely well.
Essentially I just want to relay a phrase I thought up:
"You hate the people who could be you, you love the people you want to be".
At some point I'll write a more substantial thing with some actual thought put into it.
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